You don’t. — First of all there is no “controlling” thoughts, they just seem to arrive from everywhere. What you see, what concern’s you, what you hear, what you want, what you are afraid of, what your subconscious is concerned about, what the person who passes you on the street is thinking of, (yes, we share thoughts through the unified field); all these things just continuously generate our daily thoughts. They just pop up. While at the same time it is also truth that what you think (combined with beliefs, fears, perceptions, emotions, etc.) creates your life experience. So, just exactly how does one get any influence over this very important aspect of what creates our life experience?
Deepak Chopra says we think 60,000 to 90,000 thoughts a day and over 90% of them are the same thoughts we had yesterday.
So, if thoughts create, and they do, it will be important to shift a large percent of those daily thoughts to something else, if we want different results in the future.
While it is my experience and opinion that we have zero “control” over the thoughts that arrive in our heads, we DO have influence. We can choose what we pull in and ruminate on and what we just let slide by.
But mostly, the influence we exercise consists of these two things.
1.) We get to choose the subject of our thought.
2.) We get to choose “how” we think about that subject.
Use of these two tools is how we create our life experience deliberately or by default.
It is also truth that we may have to continue to re-choose that subject and how to think about it, if we are experiencing circumstances or expecting circumstances not to our preference.
If you are feeling like deliberate choice of thought must be hard or difficult to do, humor me and try this exercise for a few moments. (Actually take a few moments and do this.)
Follow along with me and answer these questions.
When is the last time you took a vacation or few days off?
Where did you go?
Did you like it?
Who went with you?
Would you go there again?
What is your favorite restaurant?
What is your favorite sport to watch? to play?
Why do you like it?
What do you like best about your best friend?
What do you suppose would be a nice gift for your favorite person?
What’s on your grocery list?
When do you plan to get that?
What do you like about your kids? family?
What is on the top of your “I want this” list?
What benefit do you expect to receive by having that?
Now, was that difficult or hard to do? Didn’t you find that answers just arrived in your head as you thought about that question? There wasn’t really any effort involved, right? These answer-thoughts just popped up, right? You didn’t receive information about your high school sweetheart or the electric bill in response to any of these questions right? The answers seemed to stayed on the SUBJECT.
How did I facilitate that?
Questions, right? I asked you questions. This is a very real example of how the energetic universal law of attraction works. Like attracts like. The mind is similar to the search function on your computer, in that it works to answer the question you ask of it. (And the quality of your life is directly dependent upon the quality of the questions you ask yourself.)
The takeaway here is to cultivate the ability to:
(1.) CHOOSE your subject, one that benefits your intended future.
Then cultivate the “practice” of using really good questions to allow the mind to attract really good answers in regard to that subject. And deliberately choose subjects and questions all day long that further your life in your preferred direction. And if you don’t know what subject to choose, one really good question I like to use is, “What do I want HERE?”
This is especially important when you are wanting to solve problems. And we all have problems. In fact, I like to think of ourselves as problem-solving beings. Without problems to solve, we get pretty bored.
So when we are working to solve a problem, it is important to utilize the second way to influence our thoughts:
(2.) “We can choose “how” we think about the subject.
We need to intentionally formulate questions, the answers to which will lead us in the direction of appropriate, effective solutions–otherwise known as “solution mode.”
It is important to make really good questions our very best friend here.
This is really important. Because there truly is a difference in what you will manifest as life experience when you say, “How can I do this?” when compared with just saying things like “This is hard, I’ve not done it before, and I always mess this up, and it’s not going to work, I don’t know how…..”
So, if the problem is something about wanting to increase sales commissions, for example, what sort of “solution mode thinking” questions would be helpful HERE? And yes, it is good to ask questions about just what questions are best to ask HERE.
Here is a start of questions to consider.
First, there are questions about logistics:
How many customers do I currently have? Want?
What do they order?
What “specials” generally appeal to them, individually?
How many potential, but yet to be identified and contacted, customers are in my area?
Where are they?
How can I contact them?
Where else are they hiding?
What are 6 ways I can connect with them to inspire interest in our products?
Who can help me?
How can I use technology to help?
Then secondly, there are really important personal questions to ask oneself that seriously impact one’s ability to execute any plans to attain set goals, like:
What do I consider myself to be as a “sales person” in terms of “no matter what” I can always make $xxxxxx in commission a year? For example, do I consider myself to be a $50,000 a year person? or a $500,000 a year person, or $5,000,000 a year person? After all there are only 2 zeros difference between $50,000 and $5,000,000. And zero is nothing, actually. By the way, most people make their “quota” and it is rare that anyone exceeds this “personal number,” regardless of the potential of the area they service. So, it is important to get your “stuff” out of the way and then deliberately think and believe in a preferred number.
Do I feel confident in my ability to increase my sales? Why? Why not?
Do I think my customer wants to buy from me? Or, will they feel bothered somehow?
What do I think of, when I think about other sales people? Are they there to “help” the customer fill an important need? Or do they want to sell them something they don’t want, anything to make a buck? And is that also true of “used car” sales people? Usually, what you think of used-car sales people is what you are afraid people will think of YOU as a sales person for your product. By the way, holding that “fear.” will attract customers that feel that way.
Do you feel you can build an effective sales plan that supports your sales goals?
Do you usually follow through? And if not, why not? What can you do about that? Who can help?
Are you good at self-starting?
Do you procrastinate?
What is the Best Next Thing to do HERE?
That’s a beginning. Generally, the more really good questions you ask yourself, the better your plans to solve the problem will be. And as you take the time to truthfully answer those questions, this will help you address how you will interact positively or negatively with the plan you make, as well as help you overcome a good share of what gets in the way of your intended financial success.
How do you know if your thoughts are on track?
Well, if you try to manipulate your thoughts continuously throughout your day, you will drive yourself nuts. I know, I tried. 60,000 to 90,000 thoughts a day cannot be censored individually. it has been proven that the speed of thought is faster than the speed of light. You need a different “gauge.”
An “effective” gauge is the tone of your emotions or feelings. If you feel GOOD, your thoughts benefit all those things you have said, thought, or written down you want and generally are universally “truthful.” If you feel BAD, your thoughts generally create and draw to you the opposite of that. (Generally, if you feel BAD, there there is also a lie in there somewhere.) This is because your emotions directly follow what you just thought and are indicative of universal truth and the state of your subconscious belief structure. But that’s the subject of another blog article in the future.
So, the way to “control” or better yet influence your very powerful CREATIVE thoughts is to remember that:
YOU get to CHOOSE the SUBJECT of your thoughts and
YOU get to CHOOSE HOW you think about that subject.
I call this Thought Intervention.
Then just patiently and compassionately retrain your brain/mind to move in the direction of your preferences, positively. Again, use this information to empower yourself. Gently retrain your thinking without judgement, just redirect your focus over and over again–like you would a small child learning to walk or puppy to mind you.–And little by little, your thought influence will move you along your own intended path of positive creation. Bless You.
I welcome your comments on this article!